“For his anger endures for a moment; in his favour is life:
weeping may endure for a night,
but joy comes in the morning.”
“Jesus wept.” John 11:35 “Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep.” Romans 12:15
We are commanded in Scripture to weep with those who are weeping and have the wonderful example of our Lord in this regard.
I recall when a child having a very painful procedure in hospital and the pain following the medical intervention lasted for several hours. I wept many tears until it seemed I had no more tears to shed. 65 years ago doctors did not seem to have the ability to alleviate pain as well as they do today or else they thought children should “grin and bear it”.
My mother was caring for me that difficult day and I still recall seeing her tears flow for hours. She apparently had been informed by the doctor that the pain would last for some hours. I had only seen my mother weep when a loved one died so I knew she was feeling my pain very much that day.
She did not tell me “Big boys don’t cry.” Or some other equally useless statement in such a situation.
She felt with her heart the pain I was enduring and loved me enough to be tearful at my tears. Her tears did not stop my pain but I did feel wonderfully consoled that day at the sight of her weeping with me. She never expressed her love any more eloquently than with her tears that day.
Do you weep with those who weep? Or do you make statements that are unhelpful and possibly worsen the individual’s suffering?
Better to say nothing and weep than say a foolish and unhelpful comment. I do not recall anything my mother might have said but I shall never forget her tears.
The next time you are in the presence of tearful sorrow allow your own tears to flow and you shall provide a rich ministry even if you say absolutely nothing.
Tears help those who weep and while your tears will not alter the cause of their distress they sooth in their own unique manner. If you have not wept with those who weep why not start now? You will be behaving like Jesus and you will be obeying the Scriptural command.